“Self-care is the highest form of care.” The first time I heard Peter Reding of Coach for Life utter those words, I couldn’t follow the thought. After nearly twenty years of therapy and self-help, my default was still taking care of other people.
In its most basic forms, sexuality provides satisfaction of physical urges. In its highest form, sexuality consummates a spiritual connection.
The greatest desire of the human spirit is connection. A huge amount of money is spent every day in America on all sorts of things to enhance sexual pleasure and performance. Turn on the television or radio on any given day and count how many advertisements are played for sex-related medications, devices, procedures and products. Entire publications and a great deal of the Internet is devoted to the pursuit of “great sex.” Industries have been built around sex and sexual fantasies, in both physical and cyber forms.
And yet the connection that is so desired is not satisfied. Why is so much money and energy being spent, and satisfaction still elusive?
I had a wonderful date today. I let myself sleep in an extra hour or so, had a delicious breakfast and packed watermelon and a protein shake for beach snacks. I drove to New Smyrna Beach, took a two-mile walk, read a book, napped in the sun, played in the water and took a shower. …